I was wandering around the pro-choice corner of the worldwide web for an hour or so today, as I often do. I stumbled upon what looked to be a popular tumbler blog on the topic, http://antiprolife.tumblr.com. So, I wanted to write down some thoughts that went through my mind as I read.
From the posts that I read there, it didn't seem as though the author of this blog or any of her followers would be in search of information from the opposing side. If on the other hand I was wrong in that assessment, I hope any one of them stumbles upon mine or some other patient, careful, pro-life blog to truly hear and understand what we're fighting about.
I stumbled upon what looked to be a popular tumbler blog on the topic, http://antiprolife.tumblr.com. So, I wanted to write down some thoughts that went through my mind as I read.
I was offended by the first post I read. Offended is not the right word. It is like being yelled at. Someone angrily pointing a finger at you, shaming you, for something you have not done. It's hard to swallow and reminds me if the worst of elementary school.
And I do hate being called they.
Ok, but there was a point to the tirade that was "Ex Pro-Lifers/Anti-Choicers," and I will get to that now.
They are so against abortion that they don’t support a single thing... that would actually reduce abortion rates.1
This was the crux of the author's conversion from radically pro-life to pro-choice. She came to believe that to be pro-life was to not care for women. This is not the first time I had ever heard this argument. It is, however, refreshingly unusual to hear from a real person who believes she has really thought through the issues and come to a reasonable conclusion.
I agree with her to some degree, as I've conceded in a prior post. Oftentimes, those who are pro-life make thoughtless, mean comments which seriously hurt our cause and do nothing but preach to the proverbial choir.
Still, I cannot agree with the balance of her arguments.
Oftentimes, those who are pro-life make thoughtless, mean comments which seriously hurt our cause and do nothing but preach to the proverbial choir.
Here is the problem. Being against abortion and being in support of programs or pharmaceuticals that reduce the instance of unintended pregnancies are separate and not dependent on each other, even if those programs also reduce abortions.
Pregnancy is hard. I have had four children, and I would say each time was a fight. I remember the first time, when faced with going home at the end of my hospital stay, I was so scared. I felt like I was not prepared at all. Feelings aside, my son was there, and I was his mother. Childrearing is hard.
There is only one issue here, and it must be addressed before any others. If a fetus is fully human, a person deserving all rights given to any other person, then abortion is the killing of an innocent person and must be unlawful. Now, if a fetus is not a new person but is only becoming human or is a bundle of inanimate cells or part of someone's body like an organ, then abortion is a medical procedure and should be protected by law.
Now, we should look at how this affects these secondary arguments.
If we concede for now that we know that a fetus is a distinct human being, deserving protection, then voting for and protesting for laws to that end make perfect sense. Secondarily, we know that pregnancy is the natural outcome of sexual intercourse between a male and female of childbearing age and that this process of reproduction is not a dysfunction needing treatment. It is not cause for shame or punishment, of which pregnancy is neither. The reproductive process, including sex and birth, is simply (and profoundly) the normal working of our bodies.
Abortion doesn't make this not true. If this embryo growing inside of a woman's womb is a human being, then abortion should be unthinkable. That's what we want. That's what we're fighting for. Lives.
That's what we're fighting for. Lives.
I must say, I think this article miscategorized those who are pro-life, which is always a danger when you're talking about your enemies. I, personally, have never used the term slut or anything like it, and I don't know anyone else who does use the word. I only ever see it online, and everyone knows you can't trust what you read on those social media comments.
We may be radically countercultural, but to suggest that to be pro-life is to be anti-woman is silly. Women have wombs (and ovaries, fallopian tubes, and milk-producing breasts); perhaps, suggesting that this anatomical fact makes us inhuman incubators is far more demeaning to women than our insistence that a fetus deserves the same constitutional protection as any other person.