Words are inaccurate and inherently flawed. It's our interpretation; everything we ever see is colored by our own setting, cumulated throughout life. So, it is common for writers to have to choose inference and innuendo to live with that we know sits just under the surface of our point, undermining everything we worked hard to construct. This happens to me all the time, but it is pronounced in a couple of posts that nag at me regularly. One such post was entitled "A Minority of the Minority."
When you think of a homeschool family you probably have a particular image in mind. Something like a white couple in their late forties/early fifties with 10 children in homemade clothing, living on a ranch or farm in a large, immaculate, though simple, home. Every member is always neatly dressed and groomed, complete with everlasting smiles and only the kindest words. Walking into that house is like stepping out onto a quiet beach...
My purpose was to address one hinderance to homeschooling -- not appearing like the stereotypical homeschool family and to debunk the idea that only a certain type of people homeschool, people who are well-organized, highly educated, and superhuman.
My conclusion was flawed; I knew it when I wrote it. "So I'm black, experience serious mood shifts, and didn't read any books when I was in elementary school. Am I qualified to teach my kids -- yep." I meant to say we're different, and that's fine -- that differences in health, background, culture, wealth, household lighting do not bind us to government schools. The way I chose to convey this at the end was problematic.
In a list of three examples of our differentness, one is not like the others. The first example is neutral, but the second two, mental illness and a gap in my education, are negatives. The wording may suggest that the first, being black, is also a negative. When I wrote it, it was with the hope that my readers would discard this possible interpretation if it came to mind, believing the best.
It's about excuses, and often blackness is implicitly given as one. It isn't of course. Actually, it's no hindrance at all -- to anything.